Ask Lisa! Where Can I Meet Guys?

Dear Lisa,

I'm a strict non-alcoholic, and I'm far what you'd call a "party girl."
For those reasons, bars, clubs and parties (other than family gatherings) are not really my scene. Can you suggest some other places where I can meet guys?

Sincerely,

Bar-Free Babe

Dear Bar-Free,

So you don’t like bars, or you don’t want to spend every weekend with people gripping a bottle of light beer, meeting the same people in different clothes, and listening to the same jokes. And you’re starting to wonder where all the "good ones" are hiding.

Most people think they’ll never meet somebody great in a bar, but for lack of better alternatives, they continue to go anyway. We all know we're much more likely to meet that smarmy loser who introduces himself with, "So, are we gonna get naked, or what?" than the guy or girl of our dreams.

That said, there are lots of great non-bar places to meet someone fabulous, and many of them have little or no competition.

For girls:

The driving range: Spend the afternoon in the sun with a bucket of balls. These places are always overpopulated with men, and they go gaga over women who can swing a crooked stick.

Outdoor food and music festivals: Any event where there's a band and vendors selling those gigantic Fred Flintstone turkey legs (or some other meat-on-a-stick) is a good bet. You're laughing, but it's true.

For everybody:

Speed Dating:
It's hilarious, you can do it with your friends, and it's loads of fun. Like musical chairs for grownups.

Somebody else's company outing:
Pair up with another single pal and survey his/her company's assets. These events are social, and as an added bonus, you know everybody there is employed. Your insider buddy can act as your tour guide to help you to avoid the guy who sticks paperclips up his nose, or the chick with the 59 cats.

Internet Dating:
Just browse 'till you click. Remember though, be smart, be cautious, and keep yourself safe. This is can be especially effective if you’re looking to narrow the field. There are lots of new niche dating sites that cater to specific groups from dog lovers to religious preferences.


The right guy is out there for you. All you have to do is start looking.

Kisses,

Lisa